Kinky dating sites
Starting with pros can gain you credibility; most dommes don't want to waste time on total newbies.
The biggest fetish/BDSM community, fetlife, isn't a dating site and there is not a search engine designed to find matches. I'm young, fit, everything good, but I don't know where to advertise myself where my type of women will see me.
If you are dominant, you are matched to other dominants and there is no way to change this.
The orientation is not even an option when filling out what you are looking for, beyond Gay, Straight, Bi.
If you are a dominant the odds are less daunting, though still against you.
Go to events to learn techniques and develop a reputation in the community as a safe player and a decent guy.
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Definitely join both fetlife and collarme but keep expectations in check. It does not have a search function that works for dating.